Women are really from Venus!!
Posted by Amol Chaudhari on June 15, 2009
Lately, I have been reading the book – "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" by John Gray. I think this book really helps one understand the difference in the way men and women think. I am not yet finished with this book, but I generalized the things for myself. From my perspective, Men say what they mean and women say what they do not mean! Well, I know this may invite a few arguments.. but hey this is what I think.
Let me elaborate on my perspective. I think that men usually say things exactly the way they are. To understand what a man is saying, you can almost go by the literal meaning of the words. This is due to the fact that men share information. Whereas to understand what a woman is saying, you have to keep in mind that women usually generalize things. Women share emotions not information. So when a woman is saying something, simply try to apply the generalized emotion to the specific instance.
While reading the book, some of the incidents that had happened to me come afresh in my mind and I realized the blunders I had made at those times.
A couple of months back, one of my friend’s was very upset with me. She was saying that I do not have heart, emotions and everyone out there is a professional. I somehow managed to get the things in control and tried my best to improvise. The reason for her being upset was, when I was supposed to share her emotions, I was sharing my information and offering her solutions in a typical Martian style.. This is while reading the book I realized that what a blunder I had made at that time. And now I wish, I would have read this book before that incident..
Many times my mother (well, we are only 2 in our family right now) tells me that no one loves her.. no one cares for her.. and every time she would say this, I used to wonder and used to offer her explanations, again in the typical Martian style.. She would say this, every time I would not talk to her or would not pay attention to what she was saying. At all those times, I used to be tense and used to go in my cave as a typical Martian does. And she in her Venusian style used to talk to me or ask me questions to help me relieve my stress.. and this used to cause me more stress..
Anyway, after reading this book and understanding the fundamental difference in the way men and women think, I hope to handle the relations better!!
